I think that represents your own bias of masculinity and femininity, and is not one that most socially conscious people would agree with. There is far more to gender than one's role as a provider or caregiver.
it probably does. we all have our own biases regarding this stuff.
and yes, gender does consist of more than that, but how can we even consider that in light of FF11? what do we know about the mithra at large aside from what was told us? that they are hunters, protectors of windhurst, and tend to raise their children in "dens" (which i think most of us can agree that it sounds like a kind of daycare/school system in a sense). what else is there to idenfity as one gender or another?
do we have an intricate understanding of the social relationship between a mithra male and a mithra female? not that ive seen or read. so we cant use that as a barometer for mithra society. since literally every role in mithra society aside from biological father is held by a female mithra, its a given that females would be filling roles that, in other cultures, are traditionally filled with males. therefore, in the lens of that culture, the mithra females are seen as taking on a masculine role (hunter, protector, warrior). yet at the same time, a good portion of the society is dedicated towards roles other cultures would see as more feminine. thus, in the larger cultural view, i think its safe the say mithra are very androgynous as a people. individual mithra may be more masculine or more feminine, but as a whole, racially, they are quite capable of filling any role without difficulty.
I think you vastly undersell the relationship between *** and gender. Even physical qualities determine gender, and surely you know this. Further, because of the perceptions of tomboys that I already described, in nearly all cases, a masculine or androgynous personality within a feminine body is still accepted as feminine in all the cultures relevant to this demographic.
really, what determines gender is up to the culture itself. you and i look at the mithra from the outside, see a race comprised almost entirely of females, and while looking at the same things, see differing views of gender. you see a distinctly feminine bent on everything the mithra are and do. i see equal parts femininity and masculinity.
They're not entirely different things. One is a creation from the other, and the correlation between the two is extremely high. Masculinity exists because in most cases, overwhelmingly, being a male dictates the traits which masculinity consists of.
again, thats up to the culture itself. we look into the mithra and their culture from the outside and ascribe "masculine" traits to certain things they do, but is it really masculine to them? probably not. its just business as usual, bringing home food for the tribe and protecting your home. therefore, as a race where females exhibit these "masculine" traits, you cant say said traits come entirely (or even partially) from your biological ***. the ideas of masculinity and femininity are complete abstracts, things constructed by people who are trying to sort and identify qualities that differ within people.
when you have a race of people where one *** occupies nearly every role in society, can you truly say that *** determines gender, that being "male" is the source of masculinity? if being male were the source of masculinity, then why do we see masculine traits in a nearly-all female race? clearly then, masculinity cannot come solely from your biological ***.