I'm skeptical as to whether a girl relationship and a game relationship can happily occupy the same space. From the sound of it, the OP is pretty hardcore when it comes to MMOs. And from the sound of it, she hasn't known OP when he's been engrossed one. Now, it depends on how much time he's been spending with her. If she's used to getting all or most of his time, she's probably not going to like sharing it with FFXIV. She may tolerate it, but it will still probably bother her, which will lead to resentment and bigger problems down the road. I think you can get away with 1-2 hrs a day, maybe 3 on the weekends, but the statement "I am by no means a casual gamer" makes me think OP is in the 4+ hr a day category, and 6+ on the weekends.
Now, dude, if this girl is your fiance, and if you really want to marry her, the best strategy in my mind is DON'T PLAY FFXIV unless you can honestly limit yourself to 1-2 hrs a day. Its possible for some people, but honestly, you sound a lot like me. I played FFXI constantly, and I couldn't really help myself. I quit, and I don't play console games very much at all, but I know that if I pick up FFXIV, there is a good chance that I will get sucked in, just like XI. And that's just never good, for any part of your life, let alone a relationship. So if I were in your shoes, if I were being honest with myself, I would be looking at it like: FFXIV or fiance.
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