Im also going to add, thoes of us who do start early and have played 11, will more then likely keep the same attitude we had in there with helping others. people asking for stuck will get yelled at, people asking for information, will probably get it. Peopel asking for help? well it all depends on teh situation and if they always want stuff :P
How to get help:
1) Ask politely, and in a coherent fashion.
2) Know what you need help with. Do not expect the person helping you to research your quest/mission -for- you.
3) Remember that THEY are helping YOU. Keep a level head and a good attitude.
4) Give the person an honest "thank you" afterward. Stick around for a minute in case there's anything else that needs to be done. If you liked them, ask if you can add them to your friend list even.
How NOT to get help:
1) Excessive netspeak and butchering words. You can complain about how long it takes to type out words, but many people who would otherwise have helped you might decline to do so if you can't type out a complete sentence, as this can indicate laziness or stupidity. Again, you can complain that it's not fair if you want, but taking an extra 5 seconds to type out a complete sentence may mean the difference between someone helping you -now- or getting help -eventually- (or not at all).
1B) USING ALL CAPS IS NOT CRUISE CONTROL FOR COOL. YOU ARE NOT BILLY MAYS. PEOPLE CAN READ WHAT YOU'RE SAYING JUST FINE IF YOU TYPE LIKE YOUR SHIFT KEY ISN'T BROKEN. YOU DON'T NEED A BUNCH OF EXCLAMATION POINTS AT THE END EITHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
1C) Spam your request for help over and over. This does not make people more likely to help "just to shut you up"; it makes them likely to put you on ignore. Not only are you less likely to get help, but you're ruining your chances at partying with a lot of people you haven't even met by going on their ignore list.
1D) Being demanding or pushy. There's a difference between "Would anyone be willing to help me with mission 2-3?" and "Help me with 2-3 please!!!!!!" The "please" at the end does not suddenly make your request polite.
2) Not bothering to use internet resources such as Zam, Eorzeapedia, Google, etc... if you don't want the game spoiled for -you-, then that's fine when you're solo, but don't ask someone for help and then expect -them- to know what they have to do because you "don't want spoilers"
2B) You should know where you're going, what you're doing, and what you're facing. Do not expect someone else to lead you around by the hand. If they offer to, great, but if they ask "So where are we headed?" and you say "uhhhh... idk lol", you may have just convinced them to go find something else to do. Speaking on my own behalf, helping someone who doesn't know where to go or what to do almost always ends in wasted time and unneeded death. Almost always theirs, possibly mine, too.
3) If the person helping you needs to AFK, telling them to hurry up is not advisable.
3B) Don't get impatient if something isn't progressing as fast as you'd like.
3C) Don't get frustrated if you find yourself dying more than anticipated, ESPECIALLY if they're dying too.
4) This goes back to #1: like it or not, there's a HUGE difference between "Thank you for the help"/"I really appreciate it" and just a simple "ty". Chances are, the other person has spent a decent amount of time and effort (possibly money) helping you with something they didn't need to be doing. If you're thinking "but 'ty' takes a lot less time to type!", I counter with the fact that not helping someone takes a lot less time too. It won't kill you.
4B) Don't just drop party immediately after saying thanks. It's terribly rude and conveys that you are only using them to accomplish a goal. Stick around for a few seconds, at least long enough to wait for them to say "You're welcome". Who knows, they might even ask if you need help with anything else.
In the end, remember that the people you're asking for help are real people just like you are. Ask yourself, "If I were to help someone, by what criteria would I -not- want to help that person?" and don't do that. If you're trying to get help with anything in general, it's better to err on the side of caution. If you are just expecting a random stranger to help you, remember that they have NO REASON to help you at all until you give them one. Don't give them reasons to not want to help you, and you'll be far mor elikely to get help with things.