I think the biggest thing is that people have to not take things personal and don't make it personal when having a debate. I am pretty sure some of the people I have been talking to are taking it personal, however I am not. They get angry and I don't.
I will be the first to say that I am not right about everything, but in that same breath say that I won't just accept what you say on face value.
Carl - "Shhhh, do you hear that? That is the sound of forgiveness."
"That is the sound of people drowning Carl."
Carl - "That is what forgiveness sounds like, screaming and then silence."