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#52 Aug 31 2010 at 1:30 PM Rating: Good
Grand Master Scribe Olorinus wrote:
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Also, little off topic, but people taking vacation at work for an MMO launch? ****, I wish I had nothing else to do with my vacation to use it up on video games, hah.


I don't know about other people but I get about 7 weeks a year give or take a few days. So I've already gone on two trips, and have enough left over for launch... a special birthday date long weekend and another gaming week in November.

Plus two days to spare... just for whenever.



Geez Olo, I need to go work where you do!

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wait.. 7 paid weeks?

Edited, Aug 31st 2010 12:37pm by Osarion
#53 Aug 31 2010 at 1:31 PM Rating: Good
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I have to say I agree, having your own hobbies/interests independent of your spouse is CRUCIAL to the long term success of any relationship. It's nice to spend time together but you also need time to yourself once in a while.

That being said, there are a few very simple things you can do to make sure she doesn't feel neglected.

1.) Do NOT jump on the game first thing when you wake up, take an hour or two to spend some time with her. It could be just talking or watching TV, or even just holding each other for a few minutes before you get out of bed.

2.) Make sure that the time you do put aside for her isn't always about ***. Make sure there's some cuddling mixed in there.

3.) Do not eat at the computer. Take the time to get up and eat at the table (or on the couch or wherever you eat normally) and make sure to ask if there's anything she needs while you're up.

4.) When you get up to eat/use the bathroom/whatever, always make sure you take the time (on your way back to the computer) to give her a hug/kiss/etc and tell her you love her. Even if it's only for 15 or 20 seconds she'll appreciate that you remember to show some affection. (Also remember to do all these things even when you're not playing a video game.)

Now granted all these things will take some time away from gaming, but it will help to make sure she feels appreciated and loved. It may mean one or two less hours of playtime but it will most likely end up meaning you two stay together longer as well.


Great advice, also good advice from Mont about the no 8 hours straight thing. If you want to play 8 hours, break it up into 2x4 hour segments with a pretty big break in between.
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#54 Aug 31 2010 at 1:35 PM Rating: Decent
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Gamings part of all our lives obviously, my GF has to realise shes 2nd after gaming haha, im joking. I just give my GF money to go out and shop its a sort of win win situation. Shes not moaning at me so i can play as much as i want and she gets things she likes.
#55 Aug 31 2010 at 1:39 PM Rating: Decent
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#56 Aug 31 2010 at 1:46 PM Rating: Decent
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ha ha ha ha my gf has a wii
maybe i could start grooming her into a gamer lol


My brother did this with his fiance. Basically he started her off playing Earthbound on the SNES (out of awesomeness) and helped her through it, then they moved on to Final Fantasy VI I think? Maybe ChronoTrigger. Not sure, but now she's playing all kinds of RPGs on her DS at work during slow hours (she owns the place).

The trick is to find something that appeals to her and make it something that you can enjoy together, I think. Make it a fun experience that you have together and she'll be more likely to want to keep doing it. If she's resistant to the idea, you might have to offer some incentive.

Re: 7 weeks vacation-- Most European countries and Australia have plenty of vacation days. America is actually pretty awful in this respect.
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#57 Aug 31 2010 at 1:53 PM Rating: Decent
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My computer displays on my 32 inch tv which is in our living room right next to our 42 inch real tv. I usually play with the sound off or with headphones so my husband can watch tv while I play my game right next to him. Works great. He bought me a brand new super duper computer just to play FFXIV!
#58 Aug 31 2010 at 1:55 PM Rating: Decent
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My computer displays on my 32 inch tv which is in our living room right next to our 42 inch real tv. I usually play with the sound off or with headphones so my husband can watch tv while I play my game right next to him. Works great. He bought me a brand new super duper computer just to play FFXIV!
#59 Aug 31 2010 at 1:56 PM Rating: Decent
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My computer displays on my 32 inch tv which is in our living room right next to our 42 inch real tv. I usually play with the sound off or with headphones so my husband can watch tv while I play my game right next to him. Works great. He bought me a brand new super duper computer just to play FFXIV! keep me out of his way!


fixed XD

I hope you're giving something back though, its not a one way street you know!

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#60 Aug 31 2010 at 1:57 PM Rating: Good
Osarion, Goblin in Disguise wrote:
Grand Master Scribe Olorinus wrote:
Montsegurnephcreep wrote:


Also, little off topic, but people taking vacation at work for an MMO launch? ****, I wish I had nothing else to do with my vacation to use it up on video games, hah.


I don't know about other people but I get about 7 weeks a year give or take a few days. So I've already gone on two trips, and have enough left over for launch... a special birthday date long weekend and another gaming week in November.

Plus two days to spare... just for whenever.



Geez Olo, I need to go work where you do!

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wait.. 7 paid weeks?

Edited, Aug 31st 2010 12:37pm by Osarion


Yeah I get 5 basic weeks now paid and then 2ish weeks and some change, I think (I don't really keep track) that I can either cash out for extra moola or use for time off... I used to take more as money but this year I am taking most of it as paid time.

TBH the reason for all the time off is my workplace doesn't have any more money to give us raises so they just give us more and more time off so we sign the contracts.

Edited, Aug 31st 2010 1:00pm by Olorinus
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#62 Aug 31 2010 at 2:17 PM Rating: Good
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A bit off topic, but if you have a BF that isn't a gamer dump that fool and send me a private message.

Female gamers are so rare they need to be treated like the treasure they are.
#63 Aug 31 2010 at 2:38 PM Rating: Good
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ha ha ha at some of the comments coming up.

I plan to have days i play 2-3 hours and evening and gf onry nights.

i was thinking 3 night/week for her
and 2 nights i can do some serious ff'ness and maybe 3-4 hours on a sat or sunday
#64 Aug 31 2010 at 2:40 PM Rating: Decent
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As a female, my advice would be: make an agreement with her well ahead of time. Don't just sit down for that first weekend, 10 hours a day, and THEN explain yourself. It shows a lot of respect/consideration if you sit down and "ask her if it's alright with her," even if your intent behind the words is "I'm planning on doing this, how can we make it work?" The more you make it sound like you've already made a concrete decision, the more likely she is to think that you're choosing it over her. Then, I'd say make some kind of deal where you agree to do something SHE wants in exchange.

Still, I'm very grateful that my boyfriend is a gamer (and not just because I'm a gamer myself and it makes it simpler), especially considering our relationship is long-distance. It gives us something to do together, and it also means that he's "self-sufficient" as far as keeping himself amused. He doesn't have to feel constantly bored or lonely, because he has just about all the entertainment he needs right at home. As selfish as it sounds, it's a comforting thought when the alternative could be going out to clubs or drinking or whatever. I'm glad that he can be perfectly content on his own when I can't be there with him. Really takes a lot of stress off the relationship.


This was the first sane post in this thread. I hope the rest of you were kidding and I just didn't understand (some of you I'm sure were). The key really is maintaining the respect. Let her know what you're planning ahead of time. Don't use it as an excuse to slack off from all the other things you're supposed to be doing or if you do want a sort of gamer's vacation, make sure it's only a temporary thing. If she knows how psyched you are beforehand and that you're not going to turn neglectful, most girlfriends will be happy to be supportive.
#65 Aug 31 2010 at 2:54 PM Rating: Good
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I can't get my wife into gaming. She made fun of me in front of all my friends the day I asked her to log in and buy something off of the AH because it was finally available and I didn't want someone to get it first. Although, since I farmed so much in XI, she said one day she had logged in cause she was bored and helped me farm, and I asked her, how did you know what to do? And she said cause you did it so many freaking times I memorized it. lol
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#66 Aug 31 2010 at 2:57 PM Rating: Good
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#67 Aug 31 2010 at 8:07 PM Rating: Good
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My girlfriend actually wasn't interested in XIV -at all-. Opposed to it, even. Though she'd love for us to play WoW... which although I try to keep an open mind, it just doesn't really do anything for me. I think we have a mutual dislike for eachother's choice MMO.

Anyway, my girlfriend knows and accepts that I'm not very compromising... I give where I can, but it's not a lot. In general I'm going to do the things I want to do and won't do the things I don't, and I don't have the energy to take her feelings into consideration and yield to them at every turn. And that works because I'm honest about that and she is willing and mature enough to accept it.

So I try games that she wants me to try-- I make no promises that I'll stick with them. And I'll RP with her in XIV like she requested. These are compromises I can stick to and not feel like the relationship is draining me. That's something you have to consider about yourself-- not only how willing you are to give and compromise for her, but how LONG can you do it. Lots of couples start off being plenty considerate and giving, only to find that as individuals, they can't sustain it in the long run. Then when it runs dry, whoa, they're not exactly the person I thought they were. Not quite as thoughtful.

So my best advice, and that's assuming that both of you are mature and understanding enough to really accept it, is to just be honest about what you need from the relationship and what you're able to give to it. I love my girlfriend, but I need a low maintenance relationship. I need to have a LOT of me time, and a lot of game time. And I need to have game time with her, too-- to have something that I enjoy be a part of her life too. Our relationship works because we're upfront about what we can do as individuals. At times we have been upset with one another, but because we're both good about keeping our cool and apologizing when we don't, we have never had an actual fight. But if you're incompatible, then sometimes there's just no way to negotiate the relationship. Sometimes there isn't a solution that works, and you can either accept the unhappiness that comes with that, or end the relationship. But don't promise things you don't feel comfortable giving, and be clear about what parts of eachother can and can't change.

Of course, you should also be respectful. Good general rules to live by are to never assume the worst about someone, and treat the people that you love like you love them.

So I guess as that pertains to your situation, my advice is to be clear with her that this is important to you, and the fact that your time will be divided by it doesn't make her any LESS important to you. If she can't accept that, then I would take a hard look at what kind of sacrifices you might have to make for the sake of the relationship, and ask yourself if you really want to live like that.
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#68 Aug 31 2010 at 9:40 PM Rating: Decent
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May I ask where you guys/gals met your GF/BFs? I'm looking for ideas.
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#69 Aug 31 2010 at 10:49 PM Rating: Good
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Technically, FFXI. Not even gonna lie. :P Though we had both quit the game before we ever got together.
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I met mine on a free online dating site, actually. Okcupid.com. We did the long distance thing for a few months until she graduated-- long distance is always rough. For the record, we were a 96% match, of which there were very few people, even in the entire US, who matched me that well. But it's especially apparent now that we live together. Note that their percentages don't work like pay dating sites-- the questions are submitted by users and you answer whichever ones you want. You answer the question for yourself, what answers would be ok from your potential partner, and how important their answer is. It's really a great system for a free site, though it has its downsides. Namely, since it's free, a lot of people aren't looking seriously. And since they don't exactly make a lot of money off of it, they can't advertise like the big sites and don't have as many people (still a lot of people though).

Worked for us anyway.
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Ok, now we're going to get slash fiction of Wint x Kachi somehere... rule 34 and all...

Never confuse your inference as the listener for an implication of the speaker.

Good games are subjective like good food is subjective. You're not going to seriously tell me that there's not a psychological basis for why pizza is great and lutefisk is revolting. The thing about subjectivity is that, as subjects go, humans actually have a great deal in common.
#71 Aug 31 2010 at 11:17 PM Rating: Good
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I met mine on a free online dating site, actually. Okcupid.com. We did the long distance thing for a few months until she graduated-- long distance is always rough. For the record, we were a 96% match, of which there were very few people, even in the entire US, who matched me that well. But it's especially apparent now that we live together. Note that their percentages don't work like pay dating sites-- the questions are submitted by users and you answer whichever ones you want. You answer the question for yourself, what answers would be ok from your potential partner, and how important their answer is. It's really a great system for a free site, though it has its downsides. Namely, since it's free, a lot of people aren't looking seriously. And since they don't exactly make a lot of money off of it, they can't advertise like the big sites and don't have as many people (still a lot of people though).

Worked for us anyway.


OMG I met my girlfriend on OK Cupid too. We were 92 per cent, I believe. Maybe 88 per cent or something like that - but a nice solid match. Things have been great... (well technically we had briefly met before that but we didn't realize it until we set up a date though the site and met each other again).

I highly recommend the site.
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#72 Aug 31 2010 at 11:40 PM Rating: Good
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Kachi wrote:
I met mine on a free online dating site, actually. Okcupid.com. We did the long distance thing for a few months until she graduated-- long distance is always rough. For the record, we were a 96% match, of which there were very few people, even in the entire US, who matched me that well. But it's especially apparent now that we live together. Note that their percentages don't work like pay dating sites-- the questions are submitted by users and you answer whichever ones you want. You answer the question for yourself, what answers would be ok from your potential partner, and how important their answer is. It's really a great system for a free site, though it has its downsides. Namely, since it's free, a lot of people aren't looking seriously. And since they don't exactly make a lot of money off of it, they can't advertise like the big sites and don't have as many people (still a lot of people though).

Worked for us anyway.


OMG I met my girlfriend on OK Cupid too. We were 92 per cent, I believe. Maybe 88 per cent or something like that - but a nice solid match. Things have been great... (well technically we had briefly met before that but we didn't realize it until we set up a date though the site and met each other again).

I highly recommend the site.


Interesting site there...maybe I'll make a post along the lines of "30m looking for nympho who loves final fantasy, cooking & cleaning"
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#73 Sep 01 2010 at 2:21 AM Rating: Decent
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I signed up on this forum after a really long time just to answer to this thread. I played ff11 from launch until about 2007, and always found i had to make compromises. for a long time i didn't care much about having girlfriends, but once i did, it seemed my gaming time proportionately went down. to be honest, if your girlfriend is a gamer, it could be a blessing or a curse. if she is, and you play together, your life could risk ending up stuck in a fantasy world of games, and never really living together as your real life. if she isn't, she probably would never understand you wanting to spend hours on end playing a game. i've seen both sides. honestly, you will eventually have to make a compromise, as life demands, to do more of one or the other. personally i have committed now to more "real life" or out of video game things. As such, i still find probably 12 hours a week to play video games, even while being in graduate school, and still finding time for exercise and my girlfriend (who i do not currently live with).

If your girl is a gamer, you'll spend a lot of time online together and things that aren't video games will become your burden (which i'm sure you never imagined it to be that way).

if she isn't a gamer, you'll eventually commit more time to her, and hopefully be honest with her the whole time and find a happy medium. I find that whenever my girlfriend knows exactly what i am doing, or what i want to do, it usually isn't a problem as long as i'm not neglecting her. If you have a girlfriend, and you are neglecting her, then well...you don't deserve to have a girlfriend.

So I probably sound like square enix here, but you should aim for a balance because the perfect girl is the one that demands just enough for you to realize you are willing to make sacrifices for her, not the one that just ignores you and you both do whatever you want.

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#74 Sep 01 2010 at 6:10 AM Rating: Decent
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For me it's a dry run, to see how the transition will play out. Idk about anyone else, but I'd rather live together and make sure there's no early drama before going through all the **** of planning and paying for a wedding.


Exactly.. isn't it always better to get a trial/sample of something before you buy it in order to find out if it's worth all the money or not?

I'd rather live (currently am, and have before) with my significant other prior to marriage that way I know if marriage will actual work, as it's something I plan to do only once.

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As far as the OP is concerned, I can't relate completely.. because my fiancee is a hardcore gamer chick.. but since she doesn't have a strict game she currently plays (besides FarmVille and some random PC/PS3 games), I guess she's almost got that 'I-need-attention- fasset?

Unless both of you are on a 9-5, you'll have time to play.

With the 'fatigue' system, and the fact that FFXIV won't be party-necessary or play for uber-hours to get anywhere.. you won't need to spend so much time to become satisfied with your in-game status.

Disregard the comments of, 'your significant other will hate you if you play a game' persona. That's not true unless you're with a woman that needs to be smothered, and requires all of your attention.. essentially leaving you with none of your own time to spend on anything that may interest you, aka a hobby.. or something to relax/wind down on.

Face it, if she smothers, and won't let you do anything you want.. she's a horrible girl/wife and needs to be hit over the head with a bat because regardless of if it's the man or the woman, they both need their 'me' time.

She may have friends.
She may like movies.
She may read books.
She may cook, sew, jog, listen to music, play solitaire, go to the gym, draw, color, write poems/books, browse the internet (including myspace, facebook)..
Everyone has something they do that is enjoyable for themselves.
If not, re-read the above 'smothering' tactic and perform the bat-to-head option.

your best case scenario would be for her to play games.. as there as so many out there in which appeal to any one person. The Wii. The PlaySation Move (PS3 Wii-style gaming), or even... gasp.. FarmVille (YoVille, Mafia Wars, etc).

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#75 Sep 01 2010 at 8:42 AM Rating: Default
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Easy enough if you have a girlfriend put on the Home and Garden network. If that does not work give her some money to go out and buy things. So think of your ff14 subscription having additional costs. How ~$13 monthly quickly turns to 200-300 monthly. to keep her happy. Or you could shower her with attention and commit time together but that's just a lot of work.

For a guy give him a dozen beer and go to town.

Or you could do what I did, purchase a house and have her kept busy furnishing it. Though very costly but I'm sure it will work!!!!
#76 Sep 01 2010 at 9:02 AM Rating: Excellent
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May I ask where you guys/gals met your GF/BFs? I'm looking for ideas.


I met mine at the bottom of a bottle of SoCo >.>
#77 Sep 01 2010 at 10:00 AM Rating: Decent
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I met mine on a free online dating site, actually. Okcupid.com. We did the long distance thing for a few months until she graduated-- long distance is always rough. For the record, we were a 96% match, of which there were very few people, even in the entire US, who matched me that well. But it's especially apparent now that we live together. Note that their percentages don't work like pay dating sites-- the questions are submitted by users and you answer whichever ones you want. You answer the question for yourself, what answers would be ok from your potential partner, and how important their answer is. It's really a great system for a free site, though it has its downsides. Namely, since it's free, a lot of people aren't looking seriously. And since they don't exactly make a lot of money off of it, they can't advertise like the big sites and don't have as many people (still a lot of people though).

Worked for us anyway.


Yeah, I can actually vouch for that website too. There's kind of a zen to it in dealing with some of the downsides but it's one of the better sites out there because of how flexible it is. I've been on a few dates using it myself and know of two couples that formed long term relationships after meeting there. Plus even if you're not meeting anyone the questions and tests can be fun anyway.
#78 Sep 01 2010 at 10:08 AM Rating: Decent
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My gf, who has posted on this site many times, Kaelia, and I met on FFXI. However, I did have a ex who was not a gamer and did not understand it's allure and effect on me. She always told me that it seemed like I was chosing a game over her. For all those out there who have a similar situation, remember to keep the relationship in reality. Me and Kaelia go out to the gym and go out and watch movies. We are hardcore enough to play through an entire week straight if we wanted to but that isn't for everyone. Remember to make the other loved one feel important and not second to the game. We all, veteren MMORPG players, understand that to do anything in a SE game you need at least a couple to many hours of straight game play. The loved on will not understand this. Pay attention to their needs and coincide them with your gaming plans. Take them to dinner or a movie, talk to them and listen to their needs, address real concerns and draw analogies to your own hobbies. Help them understand it is a part of who you are and their hobbies or interests are a part of their needs as well. Then invite them into the game or a similar experience when the time is right. My sister married my best friend, he is a hardcore gamer, she is a hardcore NOT gamer. But they love eachother and she can be very overwhelming. He explained it is his hobby and it beats going out to the bar and wasting income and brain cells so she started to lighten up. They go out a lot together but then when it's later at night, he games away. Also, he got her a WII for her birthday and she loves it. She now plays a little bit and the tension of gaming is slowly going away. He fully plans to play FFXIV with me and Kaelia and now extended gaming isn't so out of the question with my sister. Hope my ramblings help someone out there. Happy gaming!!!

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#79 Sep 01 2010 at 10:21 AM Rating: Good
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A couple years back I wanted to get into FFXI again, however now live with a wonderful woman whom I would never want to feel ignored (sound familiar?). I sat down with her and said as seriously and honestly as possible the following:

"I know you think these games are ridiculous, but it is something I really enjoy. I was wondering if you could take a little time and try it with me, and if you don't like it after a few hours, no harm no foul. I just thought it might be something we could both enjoy. In return, I can try to do something you would like me to do with you?"

After some deliberation she agreed to "try" FFXI. Her "trial run" turned into her getting her own account and playing with me on a nightly basis. She has now pre-ordered FFXIV and purchased a new computer for our den so we can play together at release.

My girlfriend was definitely NOT a gamer, but now she is more excited about FFXIV than I am! Maybe try getting your girlfriend to play with the character creator in FFXIV, making a miqote or something? Get her involved with the aesthetic creation of an avatar to become invested.

Better in my opinion than "distracting" her. If she absolutely refuses, be completely honest with her and tell her you would like to have a few hours here and there to play FFXIV, but in no means want it to effect your relationship. Literally set aside times that you have for yourself.

Good luck!
#80 Sep 01 2010 at 10:39 AM Rating: Good
Last night I was talking about this with my girlfriend... and we ended up getting on to the topic that my girlfriend really liked playing "Dr.Mario" as a kid. I joked that I had found the doorway to getting her into more games and she was like "I'd rather do something else!" and I bugged her about it a little more and she said "how about I clean the house while you game?" and laughed and said that would be a great idea.

What it all comes down to is you don't need to try to get your girlfriend into games to enjoy them yourself, as long as you can work together to find a balance between game time and together time. My lover has a lot of hobbies, and she really doesn't find gaming interesting. So I'm not going to bother trying to get her into gaming, because that just isn't necessary. What is necessary is to nurture the relationship and keep open lines of communication.

Also it doesn't hurt to keep things in perspective. When it comes down to it, my relationship with my lover is waaaaay more important to me than getting "ahead" in FFXIV. So if maintaining my relationship means not being as hardcore in the game, that's okay.

I'm really happy she isn't judging me for wanting to play, however - and when I played B3 all Saturday after just getting it, she totally didn't make snarky comments about it even though I showed up for dinner with her a little bug-eyed and stinky. She was just happy I had fun. I'm really happy that we have that kind of relationship... so I am more than willing to balance my playtime to make it work.
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#81 Sep 01 2010 at 11:31 AM Rating: Decent
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Try to play as much as you can when she/he is at work.
Always give her/him some attention (at least 1 hour) when you arrive from work or she/he arrives from work.
If you are watching TV with her/him demonstrate that you are a little bored (even if you are enjoying it). In a few days/weeks she/he will tell "you can play your game!" before you ask.
Make sure to give her/him some attention everyday.
It did work for me! Hope it works for you.
Good luck.
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#82 Sep 01 2010 at 11:32 AM Rating: Good
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If you are watching TV with her/him demonstrate that you are a little bored (even if you are enjoying it). In a few days/weeks she/he will tell "you can play your game!" before you ask.


Works like a charm
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Exactly.. isn't it always better to get a trial/sample of something before you buy it in order to find out if it's worth all the money or not?

I'd rather live (currently am, and have before) with my significant other prior to marriage that way I know if marriage will actual work, as it's something I plan to do only once.


Actually I believe a recent study found that marriages aren't any more likely to last based on living together before marriage, but I don't have time to really say much else.

Of course that's a cumulative view of the trends, and there are certainly people for whom it's more likely to lead to success.
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Good games are subjective like good food is subjective. You're not going to seriously tell me that there's not a psychological basis for why pizza is great and lutefisk is revolting. The thing about subjectivity is that, as subjects go, humans actually have a great deal in common.
#84 Sep 01 2010 at 11:42 AM Rating: Good
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Exactly.. isn't it always better to get a trial/sample of something before you buy it in order to find out if it's worth all the money or not?

I'd rather live (currently am, and have before) with my significant other prior to marriage that way I know if marriage will actual work, as it's something I plan to do only once.


Actually I believe a recent study found that marriages aren't any more likely to last based on living together before marriage, but I don't have time to really say much else.

Of course that's a cumulative view of the trends, and there are certainly people for whom it's more likely to lead to success.


I posted a link to a (2010) study IN THIS THREAD which found for women there was no statistical difference between marriage success rates between people who live together before marriage or not

and for men there was a VERY SMALL correlation between living together first and having a failed marriage.

But also in this study it showed being white was statistically tied to being more likely to divorce... while being hispanic meant you were less likely to divorce... so I don't think a slight increase in the statistical likelihood of divorce should change anyone's decision whether or not to live together since a lot of these factors you can't control and it is more about cultural expectations and social pressures than living together or not
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#85 Sep 01 2010 at 11:53 AM Rating: Decent
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Advice for the ladies: my boyfriend loves to fish in real life, so I told him he could level my fishing in-game! He actually sounded excited about it... too bad I can't give him a beer-bellied, baseball-cap wearing hume to play with. It'd feel more realistic than controlling my kitty :)
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#86 Sep 02 2010 at 9:27 AM Rating: Decent
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Well, it would be easier if your BF/husband wasn't a gamer. Statistically speaking, guys are much easier to grab the attention of. ****, you promise him some random intimate desire in a few days and you'll end up having those days leading up to the encounter for solid, alone-time game playing.

I'm assuming it's a bit harder for women? ;D

Of course, if FFXIV had an option to jump, my fiancee would play it much quicker. For now, I've got to hope the Miq'ote appeal to her much more then the Mithra did. -.-

Btw, I met my gamer woman on AOL about 7 years ago. Okcupid.com has some pretty cool surveys though.
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