I bet you are tired of hearing this, but it's still beta. You aren't in it to see if you want to play it, you are in it to help SE finish their product. Square is probably utilizing the increased user number by testing their servers. If things break now it means they can fix it before release. It's probably gonna be this way up until relase and probably a couple weeks after. Once the server load gets more evenly distributed and optimized things will get better.
FFXI 2003-2007: Elaron ~Phoenix
FFXIV 2010-> : Gus Morgan ~Wutai