Download the files manually, the patch 1 does take forever. I even had it sitting at 0% for an hour. Gave up with it and manually downloaded it.
Check what file it is downloading and google that, should find it. maybe as a torrent. use that, I downloaded it within 15 minutes. Place it in the "My Doc" Games, FFXIV.
Some where in there is a patch/update folder. Its been covered in this forum :)
If my velocity starts to make you sweat, then just don't