Now, I read somewhere: "I don't like pressing 1-0 to do abilities." I read this as: "I want to auto attack and afk."
I personally hate having to hit the buttons over and over again for no reason. I hit attack once I want it to keep attacking and not make me constantly keep smashing buttons for no reason other to make it seem like you are doing something but in reality you are not.
If you auto-attack and go afk and die then that sucks for you. Right now I have the game in windowed mode and have it on the left side of my monitor and usually something on the right hand side to read just because it is so boring constantly grinding on the same thing over and over and over again with no change.
I understand how you feel. And maybe the game isn't for you. I am not going to bash your opinion. Not in the slightest. And I don't want my post to look as me defending the game. Which I suppose I am in a way. I mean to point out the obvious. FFXI was the same way. The boss battles were even similar. FF is a game of grinding. It always has been. I enjoy it. Last night we grinded for almost 3 hours. I had fun. I began to learn how to tank, hold aggro on more than one mob, etc. Every game is similar to this though. MMO's anyway. WoW, there are "rotations" to ensure the highest dps output. Grouping is more interesting though. But as a dps, you are always just going to hammer buttons. That's the nature of being a dps class. Keeping your buffs up, your enemies debuffs up, and ensure you're beating the crap out of the mob at the same time.
Even games like counterstrike and battlefield are like this. It is a grind in a sense. You shoot, kill, end round, rinse, repeat. I agree with what you notice, but opinions on what you notice will differ. People do enjoy it. And like I am not trying to "defend" the game per say I assume you are not attacking it. You will get more abilities as you level, and as you fight higher level mobs new challenges do arise. 1000 needles from cactuars, crabs using guard, and the humanoids use all kinds of abilities. I understand killing fluffy bunnykins can get boring. I'd say stick with it and I promise you'll find what you're looking for. Or try getting in a group and leveling gladiator. It's a lot different when you're keeping people alive.