As for people ******** about things that are present in other games... I don't recall anyone ******** (and I'll be generous here, let's say the last five years) about the total lack of an auction house or player wares search, total half-assed PC-optimized controls, completely bass ackwards UI (because really, we'd have to go back a LOT farther in time than five years ago to find one anything like FFXIV's), the broken experience gains, the lack of experience accrual for HEALERS, and on... and on and on...
Lag? Lack of content? Sure. Those run the spectrum, but FFXIV's issues go past programming into half-baked, ill-conceived conceptual failures, all of which are not and could not be present in any other game.
If you really don't think people ***** and moan in other games that do something wrong, go take a look at the WoW forums right now and look at all the complaints about the game going "backwards." Sound familiar?
The controls suck ***, no one's arguing that. FFXI's controls sucked *** too. We managed. Granted, it wasn't as bad, but it wasn't great either.
WoW just BARELY added a built-in raid UI with this patch. How long do you think people ******* about that one before they added it? I assure you it spanned all 6+ years that WoW's been around. How often do you think people ***** about every little patch that comes out for WoW? The forums are literally flooded with QQ every Tuesday.
The healing exploit? You're complaining about that? Do you really want me to list how many exploits, in every MMO, long after release there have been? I guarantee SE handled it the best way out of any other company.
Yet somehow SE is the only one doing something wrong just because people like to *****.