You've pretty much said (and I don't disagree with you) that we, the PC users, are guinea pigs to work out bugs with the system until they can get the PS3 users. Not only that, but we're disposable too!
Well a look at the interface compared to other pc based MMO's shows how little they care for us.
It will be interesting to see how the next six months pan out. Even with 1k people online at any given time that probably means 5k subscribers per server which works out at about a million bucks a month for them. No idea how much servers and bandwidth cost but I think we can safely say they aren't spending a milion a month on developer wages if this is what they came up with after five years.
To me I think the crucial question is whether they can turn things around by PS3 launch, that means the December update and possibly another after that will be decisive.
If I were in charge I'd have released a few easy fixes in the regular maintenances to generate some goodwill. I don't see why they couldn't change leve timers, keybindings, anima costs/regens, degeneration of equipment rates straight away, and I think the December update will be disappointing to a lot of people ie searchable market wards will still not be good enough for many.
TL:DR I've lost all respect for SE, they really don't have a clue what western players expect. However the game will continue, FFXI still has plenty (probably more than IV) of subscribers to subsidise FFXIV. Many people will enjoy the game for years to come, but it will never live up to the dreams we have all been having since the announcement of FFXIV.
I'm astounded they can be so inept