I am appalled. I have many of the same issues of mos of you, but heres my 2 cents anyway...
I don't really care about leves too much. Seems more annoying than worth it to me. I already have over 650,000 Gil. From doing nothing else but grinding and selling crystals on my retainer. I have more than enough cash to just buy whatever i want, instead of spending hours, upon hours, trying to gather and craft stuff myself.
I also have all of my classes setup with macros, both class switching macros, and combat macros.
I just hate how slow everything is. The UI is HORRID. Selling, Trading, Gathering, and Crafting all take an absurd amount of time. Same goes for how long it takes to setup and remove skills from my active bar. Its pretty much ridiculous.
Also the lack of Auction Houses, or any kind of organized trade is absolutely absurd. The market Wards are a sick joke...
What really killed it for me was last night. I spent about 4-5 hours in a 5 man group killing Aldgoat Nanny's in LL. and i was only getting 140-160 Skill Points per kill. I got maybe half a level in 4-5 hours of constant TOUGH grinding with a GROUP. I thought they made it so the more group members you have the more exp/skill ups you get. Nobody in the group was more then 2 Ranks from the next.
I was lucky enough to be playing for free, via buddy pass. I haven't paid a dime for anything yet. Either way so far it has been very discerning, and i just dunno if it's good enough to pay for. I was expecting a very fine, polished product from SE, and i feel like for a next gen MMO, it's just lacking too many 'easy' fixes.
There are lots of great things about the game, and it has the potential to be an MMO beast far greater than anything else, But they are just missing way too many core elements that make the game not fun.