From a female prospective, I'm sort of caught in the middle. I like video games, but recently my RL has just begun to trump my game life.
Let me start by saying I met my significant other on FFXI six years ago. We lived in different states and had quite a bit of an age difference, he being 24 and I being 17. I was starting college and he was in the middle of working on his career, but we spent almost all of our free time together on the game. Time passed and I moved closer to him. Other than physically seeing each other much more often our relationship didn't change to much. Video games were still a huge portion of our hobbies together. At that time of my life, I had no issues sitting around for hours on end just playing MMOs or some other counsel games.
Now, I'm 24. I have a full time career of my own and I'm 8 months pregnant. We both started FFXIV because we loved FFXI and we were hoping to cut down our entertainment costs per month (So far it's worked). But! I get off work and I'm tired. I like playing the game, but I just spent my entire day in front of the computer. I've gone from a hardcore, play all the time, player to a very casual player. My significant other can still play all night if I didn't say anything. I want a life outside of the game, especially with a baby on the way.
I want to experience a little bit of life when I'm not at work, and I want a little attention. Is it wrong of me to poke him and say, 'Hey let's go DO something on the weekend?'
It certainly isn't wrong as long as you don't let it ruin your relationship. We're mainly focused on relationship breaking issues I think as our topic of interest here. It sounds like you give him prior notice and not just say "get off the stupid game and pay attention to me you idiot" kind of thing. My RL is also becoming more important than gaming, and my boyfriend (24, I'm 20 now) is less of a gamer, and I often give him advice on the games he plays at my dorm. We'll both play the game but a prerequisite to our relationship is that it isn't online and we actually go out and do things every now and then.
If you man makes the game more important than you, then yes it becomes more of an issue but if you're both okay with him playing and you wanting to go out more, then you've formed a healthy compromise I think. There isn't that ultimatum of choosing "the game or me". I actually was just joking with my bf "oh you'd rather play with the game than with me" (jokingly quoting an episode of Felicia Day's "The Guild") and he turned around saying that's the complete opposite /blush (then I told him to keep playing so I could work on a take home final haha).
Overall, if it causes problems in the relationship or you feel guilty about it, then talk it out calmly and try to find a solution that doesn't break the relationship. Feel free to share any concerns here, I've seen everyone on this thread offering pretty clear and rational advice.
Side note: anyone can feel free to pm me, as a psych major listening to people is kinda my niche and I can always reference different theories or common methods used to resolve different situations. My life is made of analysis and I often find getting new perspectives really does wonders for solving problems rationally. As long as they're fairly objective perspectives haha.