now they are just a place where people stat an OPINION then everyone tells them why they are wrong.
At the risk of pointing out the obvious, I can't think of -any- "opinion" that can be stated that SOMEONE wouldn't disagree with. That's the thing about opinions; if no one would disagree with it, it's probably a fact, not an opinion. If it's an opinion, you can bet that someone is going to disagree with you. If someone wants to point out how and why they disagree, are they not voicing -their- opinion? Or are you trying to say that in any given thread, only the OP's opinion should be taken as valid, no one should disagree with them; anyone who disagrees should start a new thread, and that every thread should be nothing but people agreeing with each other?
As for the game itself, the one point that MOST people agree on is that the game needs improvement. (A few people disagree and believe the game is 100% fine). Then from there, you have the people who disagree over HOW the game needs improvement. Some think the game needs an AH and some don't. Some think the game needs to focus on travel (Chocobos and airships) and others think it needs to focus on lower level content. Some think the payment system needs improvement and others think it is fine. Some think the priority should be function (Mailboxes, ingame mail) and others think the priority should be "stuff to do". Some people think PvP should be added and others think it should not.
The game is pretty much a lump of clay right now; it has a lot of potential for what it could eventually be, but what we have now is a bunch of people tugging at it and stretching it because no one can agree on whether it should be a bowl, a plate, a sculpture, or what.
It's just like a baby; most people can agree that the baby is nice and all, but look at how many parents will argue breast feeding vs bottle feeding, when to introduce it to television, how to dress it, how to decorate the baby's room, what type of diapers to use... if people will argue about how to properly -burp- a baby, I don't see how it's surprising that people would argue over what FFXIV (our collective baby) needs to grow and thrive.
Arguing is not inherently a bad thing. In fact I'd say that while this very post is arguing against the opinion in your OP, I feel like you're likely to see that I have a point.