i agree with with kane kitty if you dont have time to play a game, dont play it there should be enough games out there that give you instant gratification without much downtime, its not our fault that some people doesnt make their time to play this game, i want a hardcore game that i need to play months even for years to get all what i want like i did in FFXI because its a hobby for me and i want it to last.
Im most of the times a casual player, but what i loved of FF XI is that everytime that i logged in i had a lot of stuff to do and never ended having all i wanted, so when i achieved something like getting an AF after a few hard chain of quest it meant a lot and people would know that, the opposite experience that i had in WoW, everything was too easy to get even getting a character from 1 to 80, so i got bored pretty soon.
Maybe you should consider getting the best gear in 80 as your objective. I am pretty sure you will feel the same.
FFXI doesn't have the grind compare to WoW even the slightest. The FFXI i remember is pretty much a given game. To be very honest, i found wow is a lot more difficult in raid boss vs ffxi raid type boss.
I have beaten all Sea if not most (beside AV) sky, odin, ...etc i never found any of these boss as hard as Onyxia as a first encounter, not to mention the rest.
The reason WoW boss get easier is people have to try it out first first hand and not everyone get its. How many time did you try to complete Molten core until you beat Ragarnok. Countless. But FFXI boss are usually just a first encounter where you watch some youtube video and you can just mimic the process. Of course, there are some time from time element of surprise but even as best guild on wow before BC, Ragnarok would still pose to be a problem after 10+ kills (at least how i fell)
I personally fell WoW is harder because of the "transition" phases which might occur anytime these boss have and objective within these phase. While FFXI doesn't necessary have it (kirin does but rest doesn't really beside their 20% or 50% moves which is a dead beat)
I would never call WoW easy compare to FFXI, maybe you just never played wow in all seriously.
Anyway back to the topic, i didn't ask for instant gratification, the payment would be use to assist in paying off a separate team just focusing their time on make scenarios. I found FFXI is lacking in the sense that there is so little story-line as it is, beside the big expansion, there isn't enough long side-quests, these scenario would definitely serve their purposes while not at the expense of taking people off from getting the hardcore grinding content.
Remember, FFXIV was built as a casual player game, If you want hardcore stuff, go play another game that is built on hardcore grinding.