I noticed after scanning the web for certain information about "guild leadership" or "MMORPG leadership", I am not the only one who composes written essays about such a subject. In fact, there is actually a BOOK dedicated to... MMORPG leadership (look up Guild Leader's Handbook.).
Although I really have yet to venture out on any of those articles and texts, I would like to make one thing clear to everyone...
Every leader... commands respect.
This applies to everything, including personal relationships, business, politics, and online.
A leader does not demand leadership, but commands it.
Now you may be wondering, "Okay, I now know that. As a matter of fact, it's common sense... But how does one COMMAND respect?"
It is a good question because telling someone things like "command respect", "be confident", or "love yourself" can be very abstract and vague. Is it really possible to put something so intellectualized and theorized to practical use? The answer is yes. We can look at it objectively and actually see the outward manifestations of these abstract concepts. The words are merely classifications that serve to help people get an easier grasp on things (because you can't really explain or express anything specific without the use of words.).
Several weeks ago, I was doing regional levequests at the rank 30 aetheric nodes of La Noscea. My friend, whom I will label as "John" to preserve his anonimity, was with us. He was a rank 35 archer and I was rank 30 gladiator. And of course, being who I am, I was the party leader. Yes, I was the one who had the power to kick out members and disband the group. Being a dictator has never been a problem for me. In fact, many people in the Besaid server loathed me for my bossiness. My ego always get in the way. I have terrorized the forums of eorzeapedia to the point where certain players in the game itself started ignoring me.
I wasn't being a good leader... I was a 12 year-old monarchist. I demanded respect, and didn't know how to command it.
John new alot about the game. After all, he was a rank 35 archer. He has alot more experience than I am and certainly knows La Noscea better than I do. While we were doing the typical levequest-runs and plannings, I noticed something a little odd... They were listening to him... including me. No one objected, everyone obeyed, and we were all happy. He had a certain presence with his avatar that made people abide by him. And God forbid he even knew about it.
He commanded respect. Every text in that chat box from him was perfectly written to convey boldness and a sheer lack of inhibitions. He never requested, only commanded, and everyone listened.
I, on the other hand... was trying to do the same thing before, but the results can sometimes be different. It really bugged me why me and him were practically doing the same type of text formats, and yet he had the people's attentions and I don't...
And then it hit me.
Ladies and gentlemen, read carefully as I show you the blueprint that separates the difference between commanding respect and demanding respect.
Every leader who gives out a command will get either of these two responses:
-The members gladly obey.
-The members disobey.
Every GOOD leader who receives the second response will:
A leader does not waste his/her time punishing, bugging, or nagging members to do what he wants. If things doesn't go his/her way, he knows exactly how to accept the defeat and gracefully lends his/her position to the people under his/her command.
If a leader does punish his/her members, he/she will be considered tyrranical. If a leader bugs his/her members, he/she will be considered desperate. If a leader nags his/her members, he/she will be considered bossy.
I was nagging my members. I was bossy. That is where I went wrong...
I hope you learn from my mistakes. Please pray for japan and hope that casualties will be no more. Take care.
Edited, Mar 19th 2011 10:12pm by Osarion Lock Thread: OT