Some of you were saying that the game shouldnt need to require you to depend on party play to make the population behave but you need to think that behind all those pixels there are humans with human tendencies, if we didn't need to be kept in line then there woul be no need for police or judicial system. As someone said, by having all your eggs in the same basket (read character) you would need to think twice about doing something that you knew would be percieved by the comunity at large as "wrong".
You're being a little naive. Try not to cling to this unfortunate notion that people behave any differently in one game vs. another. People will behave as they're inclined to behave in groups or otherwise, and they don't need Daddy Developer guiding their hand. No MMO I've ever played has made leveling to the cap such a trivial affair that people saw a character they had invested any significant amount of time into as a throw-away character. There's a difference between someone making a level 1 alt to talk smack and someone who levels a character to endgame and just decides to reroll because nobody likes them anymore. It just doesn't happen as often as you think it would and the fact that there were people in FFXI who had reputations as undesirable folks to be around suggests that it doesn't matter what restrictions you put on someone. People do what they do and if they cross a particular line, it's for the GMs to sort out.
Maybe if I had the same experience in FFXI as I did in WoW I would have seen the same things happening but that was not the case, the only experince I had from it was as a gamer. also, by saying that only FFXI players think that the comunity was good is not a coloured glasses remark since those that didn't play wouldnt really have the knowledge to make their minds about it.
The thing is, I did play FFXI. And a number of other MMOs. The communities aren't substantially different. You have decent folks and not so decent folks in every MMO.
At the end of the day, on FFIX I could block contact with people that I disagreed with their behaviour while on WoW this was simply inpractical, easily a third of the population would be included in this group. This was because of the large ammount of people being/actile like children would simply promote other people to do the same. Personally age also had a major inpact, be it real age or maturity. By being hard/longer to attain objectives FFXI would sift out younger population which depends on immediate satistaction.
The thing is, not all of us feel the compulsion to block people just because they're obnoxious. I don't run around putting everyone on ignore whom I determined to be a twit. I didn't sit in Stormwind/Orgrimmar in WoW and cycle people onto my ignore list for being dorks in trade chat. A thick skin serves a person just as well in an MMO as it does on internet forums. After 3+ years of WoW I think I wound up with a total of 20 people on my ignore list across all characters on all servers. I had more than that on my ignore list after only slightly less time in FFXI.