Duo, I somewhat sympathize with what you're saying, but consider this.. When you turn on your console and load up FF1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10,_,12, or 13, who do you group up with for the story? That's right, nobody. If we had to, a lot of us would have never finished those games.
Think of the main story quests as the Final Fantasy we all came to love from childhood until now. You don't need to wait on people to help you. You don't need to rely on people that won't show up. I don't know about you, but my friends are all nearing or above 30 now with careers, alcohol & drug addictions, or children. I don't have a group of people that I can count on to finish the story line, and that is something I'd really like to do.
Raiding will be a huge crawl through a dungeon with multiple bosses and a final boss. It will be a part of a huge story. It will require many people to complete. The main story is part of your personal development through out the game though and will not require the assistance of other players. The other, let's just say 70% of the game, will require or allow the use of the party system.
Sounds pretty good to me. If the raids are anything like Rifts or WoWs, the Shadowlord fight you speak of will pale in comparison.
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