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#1 Aug 18 2013 at 9:55 AM Rating: Decent
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I don't really get it.

I'm really friendly in-game but the reason I'm having trouble is that the Duty Finder always pairs you with people from other servers and you can't be friends with them. So, the people you were partying with end up being like NPCs lol.

I've been having some chats with cool people in-game over /shout and stuff, but it's difficult to ask other people in /shout to party up or anything because we're all the same class pretty much (class based areas).

I'm on Midgardsormr. I have some friends already playing but I'm trying to meet people and it's tough on this game compared to other games.

Anyone else having issues?

Edited, Aug 18th 2013 11:56am by Killua125
#2 Aug 18 2013 at 10:16 AM Rating: Decent
It is more difficult now because a lot of people who played World of Warcraft are now trying Final Fantasy XIV: A Realm Reborn. I'm not saying World of Warcraft players are bad or anything, I'm saying it is a game where you can get to max level and do looking for raid to get decent gear without talking to anyone. That is the sort of vibe I get from the general chat in this game as well. I see some trying to put groups together manually, but others telling them to just do duty finder.

I'm bringing some friends I know over to this game (which happens to be 4 people including me) so we can do dungeons together. Do you happen to know any friends interested in role playing games? They may not think they like online role playing games, but show them the game and they may join you.

As for finding friends in-game, that is tough, the only thing I can suggest is keep being nice and assertive at the same time. Try your hand at putting together a group (this works really well if you are a tank class.) Find someone who is a healer class and talk with them a lot until you add each other to friends list. Then finding two additional damage dealers should come naturally. Looking for two damage dealers to do dungeon runs with (we currently have a tank and a healer and are looking to get to know you more.)

I hope that helped, if only a little.
#3 Aug 18 2013 at 10:17 AM Rating: Default
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While I was playing everyone seemed rather quiet. There was no big social chatter like I remember in FFXIs hubs. Are people just less social?
#4 Aug 18 2013 at 10:18 AM Rating: Excellent
Join an active LS. I made a ton of new friends by joining one yesterday that was averaging 50+ people on at any one time. And maybe it's the server, Chat on Behemoth is usually scrolling faster than you can read it while playing.
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#5 Aug 18 2013 at 10:19 AM Rating: Excellent
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Westyle wrote:
While I was playing everyone seemed rather quiet. There was no big social chatter like I remember in FFXIs hubs. Are people just less social?


It was quite chatty on Ultros yesterday. Or at least it was around Limsa, land of the thousand radioactive squirrels.
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#6 Aug 18 2013 at 10:19 AM Rating: Excellent
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Killua125 wrote:
I don't really get it.

I'm really friendly in-game but the reason I'm having trouble is that the Duty Finder always pairs you with people from other servers and you can't be friends with them. So, the people you were partying with end up being like NPCs lol.

I've been having some chats with cool people in-game over /shout and stuff, but it's difficult to ask other people in /shout to party up or anything because we're all the same class pretty much (class based areas).

I'm on Midgardsormr. I have some friends already playing but I'm trying to meet people and it's tough on this game compared to other games.

Anyone else having issues?

Edited, Aug 18th 2013 11:56am by Killua125

I made a lot of friends in FF XI from fishing. There was usually a small group of people at certain spots and you could generally count on them being like minded folks. Lots of friendships made while cowering in the underbelly of the ferry ;)

Maybe try that?
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#7 Aug 18 2013 at 10:22 AM Rating: Default
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Westyle wrote:
While I was playing everyone seemed rather quiet. There was no big social chatter like I remember in FFXIs hubs. Are people just less social?


It seems like almost no one talks on the Legacy servers but the new servers are very chatty. Plenty of people chatting in a random area /shout on Midgard as I type this. But it still seems like there's not much of a reason to actually hook up and party with the other players. I guess you just need to be a little pushy to make friends on ARR. It doesn't really happen naturally.
#8 Aug 18 2013 at 10:29 AM Rating: Excellent
Another thing is a lot of people you see standing around in quest hubs are probably stuck in limbo. The dreadful 3102 error is affecting a lot of players currently.
#9 Aug 18 2013 at 8:39 PM Rating: Excellent
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Westyle wrote:
While I was playing everyone seemed rather quiet. There was no big social chatter like I remember in FFXIs hubs. Are people just less social?

Also, there was very little chat outside of Jeuno (and even outside of Lower Jeuno). There is no one "hub" city like in FFXI/WoW/SWToR etc. Plus, as the start of the journey (esp. on new servers), many people would have been too intent on leveling to stop & smell the roses. Give it a couple of months, and people will be sitting in town, waiting for raids to start, shooting the breeze in /shout.
#10 Aug 18 2013 at 9:31 PM Rating: Good
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While I like FFXIV, ya the absence of forced partying like in FFXI kinda makes meeting random new friends difficult. I loved how in FFXI, you just randomly met so many people, even JP players through partying.

True find a good LS is a start, but how about just meeting random people? Maybe the instances should have an option to only match up with people on the same server.
#11 Aug 18 2013 at 9:34 PM Rating: Good
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While I like FFXIV, ya the absence of forced partying like in FFXI kinda makes meeting random new friends difficult. I loved how in FFXI, you just randomly met so many people, even JP players through partying.

True find a good LS is a start, but how about just meeting random people? Maybe the instances should have an option to only match up with people on the same server.


Yes, I thought Japanese players were extremely helpful if you knew how to use the auto-translate tool. It's sad we will probably never run into one on the EU / NA servers.
#12Mopdaddy, Posted: Aug 18 2013 at 9:55 PM, Rating: Sub-Default, (Expand Post) Here we go again with these threads...
#13 Aug 18 2013 at 10:49 PM Rating: Good
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Hey Killua, I am on Midgar also and have a few friends that have formed a Linkshell already. Send me an in-game friends invite sometime. My name is Bada Bing. Looking forward to new friendships in Eorzea.
#14 Aug 18 2013 at 11:46 PM Rating: Default
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Killua125 wrote:
I don't really get it.

I'm really friendly in-game but the reason I'm having trouble is that the Duty Finder always pairs you with people from other servers and you can't be friends with them. So, the people you were partying with end up being like NPCs lol.

I've been having some chats with cool people in-game over /shout and stuff, but it's difficult to ask other people in /shout to party up or anything because we're all the same class pretty much (class based areas).

I'm on Midgardsormr. I have some friends already playing but I'm trying to meet people and it's tough on this game compared to other games.

Anyone else having issues?

Edited, Aug 18th 2013 11:56am by Killua125




welcome to the 21st century MMO.... where ppl actually think its ok for a MASSIVELY MULTIPL
aYER game to be as soially interactive and teamwork based as a single player game.... it would seem im the only one who understand that if i wanted to play a game by myself theres 35 other Final Fantasies i can do just that in (and single player games in general) but apparently single player focus also has to be the majority rule in MMOs now days otherwise its "outdated" Clearly I dont know what the MM part of MMO means anymore lol -waits for the rate downs-
#15 Aug 19 2013 at 12:03 AM Rating: Excellent
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It's hard to find a LS to join without having first met someone in a LS to invite you.

I had the same problem as OP. I found myself prefacing party chat with "hello, anyone here from Ultros" incase there was a possibility of making a friend on my server. Other than dungeon's or duty finder content there isn't really much to bond over. I'm not excessively social so budding into the local /shout chat isn't really my style.

I had this great experience with a group on the Ifrit fight yesterday. Three other strangers and I became well acquainted over a three attempt struggle to beat Ifrit. After the first two defeats we chatted, seriously discussed strategy, and poked fun-- it was great! However, none of them were from my server and when the fight ended we shared our congratulations and excitement with each other then went our separate ways. After I exited the dungeon I felt as though I had lost something. We had just formed a group that achieved something together through team work and I would have liked to have had those same people on my server to possibly build on what we had formed.

Sad day, but it has truly become the way of the modern MMO.
#16 Aug 19 2013 at 12:07 AM Rating: Excellent
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Westyle wrote:
While I was playing everyone seemed rather quiet. There was no big social chatter like I remember in FFXIs hubs. Are people just less social?


I see way more people socializing through shout-chat in XIV than I ever did in XI. The only chatter I ever saw in Jueno and Whitegate were spam messages of people looking for groups.

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#17 Aug 19 2013 at 12:11 AM Rating: Good
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Killua125 wrote:
I don't really get it.

I'm really friendly in-game but the reason I'm having trouble is that the Duty Finder always pairs you with people from other servers and you can't be friends with them. So, the people you were partying with end up being like NPCs lol.

I've been having some chats with cool people in-game over /shout and stuff, but it's difficult to ask other people in /shout to party up or anything because we're all the same class pretty much (class based areas).

I'm on Midgardsormr. I have some friends already playing but I'm trying to meet people and it's tough on this game compared to other games.

Anyone else having issues?

Edited, Aug 18th 2013 11:56am by Killua125




welcome to the 21st century MMO.... where ppl actually think its ok for a MASSIVELY MULTIPL
aYER game to be as soially interactive and teamwork based as a single player game.... it would seem im the only one who understand that if i wanted to play a game by myself theres 35 other Final Fantasies i can do just that in (and single player games in general) but apparently single player focus also has to be the majority rule in MMOs now days otherwise its "outdated" Clearly I dont know what the MM part of MMO means anymore lol -waits for the rate downs-


The game broke a record? Smiley: lol
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#18 Aug 19 2013 at 4:01 AM Rating: Decent
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I feel where youre coming from and I agree with what youre saying but give these a try...

*give the game a few months for wow zombie type style players to die off (I feel like they are poisoning the game with their bad vibes atm)

*make dungeon/raid pre mades

*join an LS/FC with former ffxi players

*make pvp premades
#19 Aug 19 2013 at 4:06 AM Rating: Excellent
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Kinda like how you made so many friends on ZAM boss... no different...

If you need any further guidance... feel free to PM Duo... he is a master also...

Edited, Aug 19th 2013 6:07am by chomama
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#20 Aug 19 2013 at 4:19 AM Rating: Excellent
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Beta feels so rushed. No one has time to sit down and talk, chat or anything like that. They're all just focused on leveling right now. Maybe there will be more of a community later on, but right now i've not had to rely on anyone else to get my levels, nor did i ever really feel the need to interact with everyone since they're all busy. I gave some axe wielder i saw running around in cloth armor some bronze, that's about it.

So far for me it's missing the social aspect that i absolutely require and love in XI.
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#21 Aug 19 2013 at 4:20 AM Rating: Decent
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Killua125 wrote:
I've been having some chats with cool people in-game over /shout and stuff, but it's difficult to ask other people in /shout to party up or anything because we're all the same class pretty much (class based areas).


Yeah, I'm not sure what the motivation was for forcing your home city on you based on what class you start as. Then again, I guess you're forced to level up classes you might not want to anyway so... /shrug

I haven't really played ARR beta since first phase so I can't speak on making friends, but I'd imagine that you can ask people to quest with you regardless of what your class is. It wasn't much different from 1.0 in that respect and even if you're the same class, you don't really need a party composition for general questing.
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#22 Aug 19 2013 at 4:30 AM Rating: Excellent
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In ultros whenever I would go I would see people talk with shouts. Almost every zone was lively with people having convos for various things or ask for directions for their hunter's log etc.

Not to mention people helping each other to kill mobs of the same quest since both will take credits.
Or people asking for revive if someone happen to have (since I was in Uldah most of the time).

So at general from my experience it was rather nice.
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#23 Aug 19 2013 at 4:40 AM Rating: Good
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What do you think of this?

http://forum.square-enix.com/ARR-Test/threads/106777-Option-to-link-with-only-players-on-the-same-server

I think it'd be rather cool to be able to know that people are from your server, so you can say, hey you're a good tank, wanna do some other dungeons with me? etc etc
#24 Aug 19 2013 at 6:11 AM Rating: Excellent
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Here is my 2 cents, Noted i'm a nice person but this will be harsh but please at least consider this.

You're doing it wrong if the only means to meet people is doing content. I never had any issue meeting or befriending people in any mmo.
here is what you do:

stop being so content focused, and walk around the game world. If you see a person needing help, offer it. If you read a shout with a question, reply it. If you see a conversation take place that peeks your interest, jump in and join it.

You can also wave to people, do silly emotes around them, emote as you talk. Or simply say hello, how are you. It is easy to meet people in mmo and its tiring when people do things as blame duty finder for their woes.
MMO wouldn't need them if people were diligent and formed parties like the early ps2 NA days of ffxi. I played 2 hrs a day and NEVER waited for a party on monk. My brother played 2 hrs a day and NEVER waited for a party on dragoon.

Stop asking for a game to make friends for you. You can do that yourself
#25 Aug 19 2013 at 8:31 AM Rating: Good
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Killua125 wrote:
I don't really get it.

I'm really friendly in-game but the reason I'm having trouble is that the Duty Finder always pairs you with people from other servers and you can't be friends with them. So, the people you were partying with end up being like NPCs lol.

I've been having some chats with cool people in-game over /shout and stuff, but it's difficult to ask other people in /shout to party up or anything because we're all the same class pretty much (class based areas).

I'm on Midgardsormr. I have some friends already playing but I'm trying to meet people and it's tough on this game compared to other games.

Anyone else having issues?

Edited, Aug 18th 2013 11:56am by Killua125


I dont know, my girlfriend used the duty finder and twice she came out of the fight and got linkshell invites.
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#26 Aug 19 2013 at 8:32 AM Rating: Good
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Beta feels so rushed. No one has time to sit down and talk, chat or anything like that. They're all just focused on leveling right now. Maybe there will be more of a community later on, but right now i've not had to rely on anyone else to get my levels, nor did i ever really feel the need to interact with everyone since they're all busy. I gave some axe wielder i saw running around in cloth armor some bronze, that's about it.

So far for me it's missing the social aspect that i absolutely require and love in XI.


I agree with this.. Once things settle down a little it will be different.
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