From your description, you're either a pug or a lnc. I've been doing a lot of parsing since release and I can say, pretty accurately, these are the stats to focus (some of these aren't on gear):
Crit chance: This stat will mean the largest different in dmg. I never saw my DPS raise as much as when I increased my crit. Currently I'm at around a 35% chance to crit, and I'm the top DPS nearly every time, while other DD's sit around 12%.
Determination: I don't have nearly enough data points on this, as it's hard to get the stat in any abundance, but I did parse with modest increases and noticed a larger difference than with str/dex. Sitting on about 240 determination now, while Dex and Crit are around 380, which may be the reason that the same about of determination gets a greater increase in performance than Dex.
Dex / Str / Dmg: It seems that dmg and dex or str are synonymous. A 20% increase in pure dmg increased by DPS by nearly the same amount as str / dex.
Things you shouldn't focus:
Parry: All three jobs can instantly increase their parry rate and defensive stats in a pinch to survive pulling hate. Aside from those "Oh Flip!" moments, you'r primary goal is to make things die quicker. Let other people focus on keeping you alive.
Dex / Str If you are melee, don't take Dex. If you are ranges, don't take str. They won't help.
Things NO ONE should focus:
As it stands, no one ever misses. EVER. 100% accuracy in every parse. I seems impossible to miss, and I think it's a glitch.
Edited, Sep 3rd 2013 11:40pm by Louiscool
Good info, thank you sir.
I would add, however, that I have noticed misses so far, on both auto-attack and on abilities. Nothing worse than missing that built up Full Thrust. Granted, I am lvl 35, so hopefully at lvl 50 that changes.
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