So you decided you want to give tank a shot. Marauder or gladiator, they're both fun. You do some quests, then some fates, and before you know it, you're 15. Lets join sastasha!
You get in, monster attacks healer on first pull, you wipe, everyone screams at you and asks if you are mentally handicapped in not such a nice manner.
I've seen it a hundred times playing as a non-tank in those dungeons.
It's not your fault.
Ok maybe it is.
But you didn't know, because SE gave you fate's so hate management is a completely foreign concept to you! Unfortunately, it's super important, and you had better get it down before long or you're gonna have a bad time in those dungeons.
The first thing you need to know, is if the monster doesn't hate you, you're doing something wrong. But how do you know? Typically by whether or not it's looking at you. Plus SE added that little hate meter cheat sheet, so you can check that too. If it's not flashing red, you're going to have a problem.
"Great, I shall start by insulting their mother."
Great hate management starts with a great pull. Level 15 job quest should give marauder tomahawk and gladiator shield lob. These are CRITICAL skills, because they're ranged attacks, and all part getting the best initial pull you can.
Next is positioning. Monsters face you and away from the rest of the party. That means the order should be you, monsters, DD's, then mages. There's 2 big reasons for that. First, monsters often do aoe moves in a cone in front of them. If the monster is facing you, there's no way the cone can hit the DPS on the other side. Second, many melee jobs gain a benefit or have a skill that requires being either behind or to the side of the monsters. Having them face you and away from them makes it easier for them to do the most damage.
A party is like a single warrior, and as a tank, damage is not your priority. Hate is. You are the armor so the sword can cut. The armor does not do the damage, the sword does. If there's no armor, or crappy armor, the sword can't do it's job. It's a crappy analogy but it's all I could come up with.
Hate moves. Each job has 3. First is your ranged attack, either tomahawk or shield lob. Then there is your aoe attack, overpower or flash. Last there is your 2 hit combo, which requires you to use it in combination to get the added effect: Increase Hate.
Overpower vs Flash. Lets say overpower generates 100 hate. Then flash would generate 80 hate. Overpower generates more hate than flash, but flash is a true AoE 360 degree ability. Overpower is a cone in front of you, so you MUST be facing the monsters for it to work. Flash is MP based, vs overpower being TP based. Gladiator's have a combo that restores MP, so if you run out you can't use flash until you get some MP back. In my experience TP regenerates faster than MP, especially in combat, so marauders only have to wait a couple seconds.
"I'll just spam aoe hate and the monsters will hate me all day long!"
Great idea! Except it won't work, you'll be completely out of MP/TP because these moves consume a LOT of MP/TP. Overpower and flash are designed to only hold hate over the healers cures. If something else attacks it, they'll generate more hate and you will be ignored almost instantly.
Lets put some numbers on things. These numbers don't represent actual hate, but give you an idea.
Ranged attack: 100 hate
AoE Hate Move: 100 hate
Combo Move: 180 hate
Cure: 70 hate
So you get cured twice, the mob is going to forget you because now the healer has 140 hate and you only did your ranged for 100, or only did your AoE for 100. Your combo move doesn't take much TP or MP, but generates a ton of hate. But you can't do only that, because the other monsters will forget about you, you need to alternate.
Ok, that's a bit about how hate works, lets talk about the actual pull and tanking!
I could type it all out but this fancy picture I made explains it better.
Naturally, not everything is the same every time, but this should be good enough to get you started. Good luck and happy tanking.