"Hey I'm not sure if you know this, but..."
"By the way, X ability does this really cool thing, try using it more"
"If you hover your mouse over the ability it gives you some tips about it. Not sure if you noticed that."
Avoid smiley faces. They can be interpreted as sarcasm. I use the " XD " and " :D " ones instead because they're less likely to trip someone's sarcasm-o-meter when giving constructive criticism.
I've tried this so many times and it has backfired on me just as many! Any other tips you can provide? I think, in groups, I am pretty vocal and people perceive this as 'know-it-all' but all I really want is the group to succeed. And to do that, being prepared generally helps. Yeah, if you know it already, you can just tune me out but some people just take great offense to even the bolded one.
You should feel bad for me...I've had to put up with you for the last hour or so. Trust me its not easy. It is a chore.
Yes you are a bully and you are a coward for not just owning it.
Bullying - is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children, people that involves a real or perceived power imbalance.
Do I think the person you berated is still thinking about it...I have no idea but you don't know either. He could have wrote you off as a another DF jackass or he could have quit the game and as you so brilliantly put it..."put the rope around his neck"
you have no idea.
I'll tell you what I have learned...you are a bad player. I think you suck at the game. You may have uber leet skillz boyyzzz but attitude and personality are nil. Where I come from character matters, reputation matters, kindness matters.
So to recap because I'm sure you require everything handed to you easily...
- You are a bad person. Period. Blanket statement. Evidence see all your posts.
- You are what is wrong with the games community in a nutshell
- You are a Coward, I see right through your sh*t.
Take your sh*t to the "OF"
No offense (I think you know what this means), but you're kind of acting a bit hypocritical here.
Yes, the person you are quoting is admittedly an @#%^ at times. Everyone is guilty of this. We've had a bad day, we come home to play a game, and are presented with more frustration. It can make some people snap.
But you berate/mock him and call him a bad person when you do not even know him in real life. How are you any better by your own logic?
I think you both need to step away for a while and think about why you play video games with other people. It certainly isn't so you can come on the forums and ***** at each other..or so I would hope.
You know what? Sometimes, to get a player to do better, you do need to call them out and put them on the spot. They have two options: deny they need to improve or seek advice/information from the person who called them out or other sources. No need to ridicule them but how do you nicely tell someone, "Well, dear, you just suck so if you could get better that'd be great."? It isn't really possible without the other person becoming offended.
This type of attitude shouldn't ever be displayed outside of content that doesn't require a specific player to perform a specific role to ensure group success. Yes, dungeons fall into this category but all of the dungeons up till 50 really just teach you how to play with others and teach you about general mechanics. Therefore, you need to take this into account and give people a few tries + some 'friendly' advice before you let the bile flow.
If it's my 12th wipe on WP where the tank has tried every single time to 'speed run' his way through the dungeon when the other players (including myself) do not have the gear for it, then I am going to not only call out the tank on his inefficient use of the party's time but also tell him he should know better/know the party's limitations/observe the obvious trend.
I actually was healing WP earlier today with a tank. We didn't wipe but the tank acted like a complete douchebag. After we had killed maybe 3~4 packs, he left mid pull
While I won't berate people off the bat unless they have insulted another party member for no reason whatsoever, I do see the need to critique a player who continually causes failure. Edited, Oct 23rd 2013 3:56am by HitomeOfBismarck