Honest question, would you prefer quest themeparks over a game with more freedom? If you don't at least give your opinion, it's kinda pointless. I've certainly given mine.
Ignoring the false choice you've provided here, here's my opinion..
Yes, I want those things. I don't always want one or the other. I'm a person, not a brick.
Sometimes I want some mindless questing where I can just run around accomplishing quest objectives and gain some levels and some loot. Sometimes I want to craft for a while and make cool stuff, or skill up my tradeskills, or gear up an alt. Sometimes I want to farm mobs or herbs or ore. Sometimes I want to shoot things in the face for 3 hours. Sometimes I want to be swept away in a narrative where I really identify with my character because the story has developed around me and through my actions and choices.
I'm also capable of playing more than one game by the way.
I'm looking for FFXIV to give me a Final Fantasy-quality story as well as the MMO aspects I've come to enjoy. I'm hoping for combat that ranges from mindless directed grinding, all the way up to complex bosses that require solid strategy and execution to defeat. I'm hoping for meaningful crafting, but I'm also hoping it won't cause me physical pain to progress through.
And sometimes I want to shoot things in the face. Borderlands 2 is pretty good for that. Also Warframe.
I will be 100% honest with you right here, right now. When FFXIV was first announced back when dinosaurs roamed the Earth, I was honestly hoping for FFXI with WoW-style gameplay. Yes, that's right, my original hope for XIV was that it would be WoW but with Final Fantasy.
So much for nobody wanting that, huh?
I'm glad that SE is embracing modern MMO standards. I'm seriously hoping they can do that and keep it a Final Fantasy game. It's tough, but I think they can do it.