BartelX wrote:
However, I would also point out that I made it abundantly clear to all my officers that I would be planning my wedding for the first month or so and asked for patience and support during this time. I asked them to step up, run events, and really help out because i just wouldn't have a lot of time, and the time I did have would be sporadic. I asked them to be leaders in my stead, and in the end it seemed like they either didn't want that responsibility or just weren't prepared for it. I'm not blaming them, it's a lot of work and a lot of commitment and I asked them to do it without a leader who was on a signifcant amount, so I can't say I'm surprised many left. It happens.
I think that your assumption that many would leave is correct. If Alexander the Great, Napoleon, or Genghis Khan were dedicated to anything other than leading at any other period of time, would they have conquered as well as they did? Well, it depends on the aspirations. What were the goals (or the mission) of the FC. We never really knew... Were you out to be the biggest and best on the server? If so, then you would need to be on top of that project 100%. Remember the movie "Alexander" when he conquered the world then got to India and kinda got sidetracked for a bit? His soldiers got pissed and revolted. They had things they needed to do, like fight or go home. They couldn't rest on their laurels. Now if the goal of the organization was to be laid back with less of a real mission, then that role would be more suited for folks who aren't 100% dedicated. That is really a better suit for the pre-50 game where the content is more solo oriented, but once you hit endgame it is a totally different game almost. It becomes a stupid gear check rat race that everybody hates but loves at the same time. It is for these exact reasons that organizations have mission statements. I think a lot of the 250-300 people (at its max) were split on the mission of the FC and it caused tension that even you may not have been aware of.
Quick sidenote then I'll move on: The guy harassing the women in the FC (think you know who I'm talking about) stayed way past his welcome. Even thirty minutes would have been too long.
I dont envy your position. I have no aspirations to lead. Sure, I wish someone would trust me enough to give me the keys to the officers quarters, but I'm sure as hell not going to beg for it, or nominate myself. Whats funny is that my position in real life is higher than I've been in either FC. But I want to be an officer. I want that access, but to protect it, not to abuse it. But I'm not begging for it. Still, if others, for whatever reason, dont recognize and nominate me, I'll never get there. I can live with that, but I'll alwasy have the aspiration. You have to recognize that there are others out there in that same boat. I don't play MMOs to pass time. Thats not my goal. I devote my every available moment to trying to build myself to whip *** in the best way possible. I want recognition. And I want to help others to help them get recognition. I want to be the red mage that soloed the unsoloable mob. I want to be the first on Ultros to down Twintania (not going to happen).
It seems like there was a pace issue that was woven into all this as well. Some are in the position it seems to move faster than others. I hear people talk about Aurum Vale and story mode primals and its like I'm recalling the good old days of Aht Urghan. I went back on my paladin and ran Haukke Manor the other day and didnt have a clue where I was going. But ask me to dodge titans HM plumes or pass allagan rot and I'm all about it.
I am where I am, I'm doing endgame. Its fun, I like it a bunch. I'm too close to the top now and I have to keep in that rat race. I used to be there with Battlefield 2 on XBOX when I was #3 sniper on the game. Rat race. If I didnt log on every day and get some headshots I'd be #4, then #5. But in Battelfield 3 when I was sniper #189584 it made it a lot easier to say, "Ah well, tomorrow". But sometimes I wish I could take it easy like you guys. Sure would make my personal life less complicated.