Parsers are necessary for maximizing your dps. If you don't have numbers to prove your rotations, then you're just guessing. In raids you need it to show who isn't pulling their weight and dragging the group down, causing wipes. That weenie won't have a raid group anymore :(
Raids are about team play, if you fail dps check then the dps work it out civilly, not someone like you yelling OMG you suck your dps is 2.3/sec lower than everyone else, you fail go kill yourself. and never come back. Same for healing and tanking. I pity whatever fc takes you long.
I've never told anyone that they fail and they should end their life. A parser is a tool that should be used. Not all fights are about strategy. Some have enrage timers that need to be beat in order to win. If someone is lagging behind in dps, it's necessary to tell them to improve or replace them.
You're making a lot of assumptions. If it were a team drag race for example, you would be able to see (with your eyes) the car that isn't keeping up and dragging the over all 1/4 mile time average down. You can't see that with your eyes in a boss fight. Addons like recount give you a visual of the problem so that the guy in the stock civic can do what is necessary to keep up with the team and win the race.
Your argument still in no way says anything about parsers being a "crutch". You're only saying that it leads to elitism. Elitism is an attitude, governed by someone's personality, not what addons they use to streamline their performance.
Trans, I agree with everything you are saying except the bolded parts. It's exactly what I don't like about parsers. It ends up singling people out and basically saying "improve, or you're gone." Yes, there are battles where it's a DPS race and you need to have everyone working efficiently, and yes that's what a parser is good at determining. But rather than giving the lowest player an ultimatum to improve or be replaced, I'd much rather someone take the time to mentor that person, help them understand their rotation, and show them the best ways to increase their DPS. Sometimes players really need to learn by example, not learn by fear of being booted for someone better. That absolutely breeds elitism.
I have a feeling that it isn't what you meant to imply with your posts, but it really came off like the lowest members are expendable in order to achieve goals, and I really hate that mentality in a group. As long as you are clearing the content, a parser should be a self-evaluation tool. If you aren't clearing content, and it's actually due to the DPS being too low, then it needs to be evaluated and the lowest members need to be given a helping hand, not a kick out the door.
Ehllfire, if you honestly don't see the value and benefit of a parser, you really don't understand how an MMO works. Regardless of what you think your eyes are seeing, you will never full realize your potential until you can compare different abilities with actual numbers, determine whether or not a DoT is worth using, determine when the ideal time to use certain buffs/debuffs is, etc. All of these things are easily identified by parsing, whereas just using the eye test can often times be misleading due to not paying close enough attention, hidden variables, or just not getting a large enough sample size of actual statistical data.
Sorry for the long-winded post, parsers tend to be a touchy subject for me.