FFXI vs. Girlfriend - Round 1 - FIGHT!!!Follow

Genbu is always in sky, he ain't going anywhere for a long time.

Girlfriend... not the same...

If you don't get it, god help you.

Control freak girlfriend = bad...repeat after me...Control freak girlfriend = bad.

Edited, Thu Sep 1 05:53:29 2005 by Lobivopis

Thank you everybody. I will be trying compromise a few more times. Thanks!

What exactly does "I want to play and she doesn't want me to" mean?
Are we talking about You returning from your 10 hour job early in order to play for the remaining 14 hours of the day while she asks you to turn off the computer one hour early so she can wash you, or is it more like her wanting to return to her mother because of you checking your ingame mail every sunday?

I get it from your first post that she's afraid you might ruin your future. In that case she will have to understand that she can't help you by complaining, because if you really were evading your problems by playing this game having a problem with your girlfriend would not be of much help, would it?
I recommend setting a strict time schedule. Does she have any hobbies? My girlfriend does karate, so every monday and thursday evening i invite a friend and we play multiplayer games for the evening. Durning these evenings i can do whatever i please and she's not even around to complain. Of course that's not the only time i play, but with these evenings it's easier to turn the computer off on the other days and do her a favor.

Real life > computer games... well yeah, but then games are part of real life, and if you just try to completely stop it at once you'll just find yourself starting to watch tv for several hours a day or worse. Don't just try to play less, think about what you can do instead. If there's nothing you could or should do, then there's nothing wrong with it, but if you find that playing keeps you from important things, then try to think of gaming as a reward. To me it's way more fun when there's nothing to be done left and there's no one around complaining.

Hope this was also a little helpful and not only annoying ;-)

Just because she wants to spend time with him doesn't mean that she's a control freak.

MOST TIMES (and I mean most, not all), guys get obessed about this game.

There are many times that I wish my irl fiance would quit >_> and we play the game together. Every day off of work for him is another day for garrison, or cop misisons, or anything else.

Again, when guys get obesessive, we tend to get upset, feeling we're losing 'em to FFXI.

Especially when FFXI overruns any sort of personal time.

Why FFXI is better then a Girlfriend

FFXI won't dump you
FFXi won;t cost you 80 bucks a date
mithras will never grow old
if someone in FFXI is nagging me there is /blist
I don;t have to buy FFXI birthday or Chreistmas presents.
I don;t have to remember anniversaries on FFXI
Hmm.. I am runnig out of reasons..

Ok reasons why a girlfriend is better then FFXI

girlfriends are nice and warm
it's fun to spend money on them
They can keep you warm at night
They are pretty
the warmth is good
They buy stuff for you on b-days and christmas
they don't require hours and hours of waiting around before you can do something
they are soft and warm.. lol


anyway pros and cons to both i rekon, choose well grasshopper

Never take your real life for granted. If your in a fulfilling relationship, then you need to make compromises and invest time into it. I adore my fiance, but I really enjoy playing MMORPG's, she of course hates them. Anything that cuts into our personal time is a big no-no for her. A woman will always want to make sure that your focus is on her and her needs. It's just the way things are, no matter how much they deny it. Set aside time for the two of you and focus on her. After that she'll be happy that you want this relationship as much as she does. Meaningless sex wont do it either, make it worthwhile for the two of you. I spend atleast 3-4 evenings a week with my fiance, and the rest I play FFXI or hang out with friends. She's very happy that I put her infront of other priorities and all that. Pretty simple huh?

Just have to know how to play the game properly. Real life and virtual.

Edited, Thu Sep 1 08:27:47 2005 by allzen

If she wants you to stop playing I can only think of 2 reasons:
1) she is scared you are spending to much time in a game and nnot in the real world.
2) she is pissed because you are spending to much time on a game and not on her^^

Solution: schedule your time better.
Set up time and dates to do things with her, and plan your play time around that.

Question: do you live with your g/f?

No you got it wrong, let me put it in perspective.

Poon > game
Pie > game
Hairy(or not) triangle > game
pus[/b]sy > game
Snatch > game
Cu[b]nt > game
****** > all

If your married as I am this goes double for us.

Got the idea yet op?

My advice, forget the game. When you get old and are sitting around with your friends, or by yourself or whatever... I doubt you'll be thinking "Damn I wish I played more videogames" rather than "Damn I should have paid attention to my girlfriend and made it all work out..." Just think about it... Is a videogame filled with elitists and people with no social life worth it?

She may be right, mmorpg's can be addictive and habit forming just in a way similar to drugs/smoking.

I'm not saying that it's this way for everyone, but if you were playing too much at one point ...

hey my favourite habits while playing final fantasy XI taking drugs lol ohhhhhh woah is me...